How NOT to host a teenage party

My husband started quietly herding the partygoers out of our house and off our property. On the other hand, I was yelling some extreme language. Hubby turned to me and asked, “Why are you bothering to argue with drunk teenagers? Just treat them like sheep and herd slowly.” My husband spoke to a few boys that he knew and persuaded them that the party was over and to help him get rid of the drunks. Eventually we got them off our property but they were still milling around blocking the street. They had nowhere else to go. However, once they realised that the police vehicles were not leaving, they drifted away.

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By 9.00pm they were gone and we were left totally shell-shocked. We assessed the damage, which could have been a lot worse but was still enough to leave us shaken. My neighbour’s letterbox was destroyed, there was a hole in the ceiling in the shape of a beer bottle and some furniture was destroyed.

“I am humiliated that this sort of thing happened under my roof. My son was in shock as well and freely admitted that he was way out of his depth.”

I am humiliated that this sort of thing happened under my roof. My son was in shock as well and freely admitted that he was way out of his depth. However, he was still grounded, he bought and installed a new letterbox for the neighbours (they say it’s better than the old one) and he had to clean the neighbouring yards of broken glass, as well as apologise to our neighbours for any disruption.

A short six months later and my husband and I, after much discussion, allowed our son to have a 17th birthday party. Having been bitten previously, we knew what to do and it turned out to be a success.

Read about Margie’s successful teen party

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  1. I am glad that your son had a successful 17th birthday party, its good to know that as a family you were able to sort things out. Do you have some tips?
    I would also be interested in knowing more about the grey area of underage drinking, when parents do not supply but teens smuggle it in.

    • I’m sure Margie will reply as well, but yes, she does have some great tips on what went right the second time, and I’ll be posting an article on that next week (hope you don’t need this info this weekend!)

      As for the issue of underage drinking, and supplying teenagers, we’ve been doing some research here at The Kids Are All Right and I was extremely surprised to learn that it does not seem to be illegal, if the teenagers are being supplied on private premises. It is illegal on licensed premises. Each state and territory has its own rules, and some states – Victoria for example, and I believe NSW – has recently brought in extra rules saying you can supply other people’s teens on your premises ONLY if you have permission from their parents/guardians. We’ll be publishing that article as soon as we can be sure we understand the facts.

  2. Thank you Margie for sharing your story and thank you The Kids Are All Right for publishing. It’s through stories like this that we can hopefully avoid the ‘Epic Fails’ and learn from others. Looking forward to reading the next article about what made Margie’s next party so successful.

  3. Wow. Interesting for me was how quickly it got out of control. your husband must have got the shock of his life when he arrived home. Serves him right for suggesting it in the first place!

  4. AAHH – it wasn’t my long-suffering husband that suggested the fiasco. I would love to blame him – alas my niece was the culprit.
    We’ve currently been going through the Schoolies issue with Son and it has gone extremely well. Again – planning is a plus. Thanks everyone for positive comments. On rereading the article there are some “negative mothering moments” but if it helps others avoid the mistakes we made – then its all good. I see it all as a learning experience!

  5. Thanks for sharing your story Margie. It’s refreshing to hear other parents have “epic fail” moments as well. As parents we need to support and encourage each other, it’s not an easy job. I know when I was growing up we didnt have the instant access of SMS and Facebook, times have certainly changed

    • Thanks Amanda for your comments. I agree wholeheartedly that parents need to support and encourage each other – hence the website! Glad you agree too 🙂 And I know a lot of people will say that bringing up teens today is no different to when we were teenagers, but I think that technology, like SMS and Facebook as you say, does make a big difference. Thanks a lot for stopping by.



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