Guest post by Kayley Harris, mum of three.
There comes a time in a young man’s life when his thoughts turn to…well…anything but schoolwork. My middle son, Mr 13, is about to start year 8 and the novelty of high school has well and truly worn off.
In the final months of primary school, he was so excited to be going off to high school with his older brother and being treated like a teenager. In the first week of high school, he came home and declared that science was “really cool because we get to blow stuff up!” I was thrilled that maybe my son would love science and maths and go on to discover a cure for cancer and win the Nobel Peace Prize. Yes, I really am that stupid. After some initial experiments involving sulphur, a bunsen burner and a burn in his school shirt, his love of science wore off by week 3.
Don’t get me wrong. Mr 13 is a lovely, bright boy, but strangely, at his age, isn’t slightly interested in school. Go figure?? He’s interested in looking “cool”, having a smart phone (because all the other kids have one apparently) and having a girlfriend. Well, one out of three isn’t bad. He has a girlfriend…more about that in a later blog.
Last week a note came home (and how many notes come home from school!!!). This one looked serious because it was on green paper and mentioned the word “detention”. My older son, who is going into Year 10, hasn’t had a detention yet (touch wood) so this was new for us. The note from the year 7 Dean explained that Mr 13 had broken the “hands off” policy. They obviously weren’t talking about the junk food in the canteen (also more about that in a later blog).
Mr 13 and his friend had decided to wrestle during maths class, things had gotten out of hand, and the other boy had decided to retaliate with a left jab of a maths compass to my son’s neck. Yes, it could have been very serious. So the two boys fronted up last Saturday morning in full school uniform for 90 minutes of “reflection” on their behaviour. After it was all over, Mr 13 and his friend were back to being best buddies.
I worry for my middle son. He is hyperactive at times, eats too much junk food (my fault), sleeps in on school days, spends ages in the shower and struggles with his homework. He is also a beautiful, happy, loving, funny, compassionate and perfectly normal 13-year-old boy.
Do you have one child that worries you more than the other? Do you ever get notes home from school!?