Sticks and stones may break our bones but words will leave us scarred

Sticks and stones

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By Shari, aged 17.

Sticks and stones may break our bones but words will leave us scarred.

We go through life with that little rhyme.

Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me.

But the reality is, words hurt. No matter who you are or where you come from words can leave you scarred. It has taken me 17 years to realize this, 17 years of words getting thrown at me and 17 years of me throwing words back, its the ongoing war of bullying. The he said she said, I MUST RETALIATE or I will be referred to as the ‘loser’ who couldn’t think of something mean to say. Then I make them cry, I took it to far, that little joke became something that they wont forget. Then they ask me why did you do it? And I say, if words never hurt that means I can say anything and they wont be hurt.

But that’s wrong, that little rhyme will never hold truth.

We spend our lives battling the playground bully, the bully who called us fat, the bully who told us we weren’t beautiful and it’s about time we changed our mindset. That sick little rhyme is all a big lie and it is about time we changed it into something more truthful, something that speaks to everyone, something that promotes beauty instead of torment.

So instead of telling your kid that words don’t hurt them. Grab your kid, look them in the eye and tell them they are beautiful. Tell them that the world is mean and people are mean, but right now in this moment I love you and I always will love you and that is the only thing that matters.


Teen blogging competition for National Youth Week 2013

17-year-old Shari is a winner in our Teenage Blogging Competition, as part of National Youth Week 2013. She wins $100 thanks to 1st Available, Australia’s number one healthcare booking site.

1st Available - sponsor of TKAAR youth blogging competition

Other winners

Parents shouldn’t have unreasonable expectations, by Spinner, aged 14

He started it! by April-Rose, aged 14

The computer is not where my brain goes to die, by Robert, aged 15

Stop fighting! I am hurt, by Eva, aged 15


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  1. Words are incredibly powerful. They have the ability to inspire and educate and sadly the ability to destroy. A beautifully written piece. Thank you Shari for writing it.
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  2. Beautifully written, Shari and so deserving of winning the competition.
    A great reminder that we all need to use our words wisely and with thought
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