Parents shouldn’t have unreasonable expectations for their children

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Photo Credit: Stig Nygaard via Compfight cc

By Spinner, aged 14.

Dear Mum/Dad,

I would like to tell you that the pressure you have placed on me has made me confused.  I am confused about where my future lies, what I should become, and I don’t know who I am anymore.

Remember that day mum and dad, when you had an argument about me and the pressures I’m facing.  Mum you were telling dad to stop pressuring me to be perfect at everything.  Perfect at school, son, sport, dancer, reader and even perfect in a future career that I don’t even know about.

The future will always be unclear, but I know that I’ll grow up to be a man that you will be proud of.

I’m only 14 years old.  I enjoy skateboarding, hanging out with friends, dancing with my dance club members, and all the things young boys like me enjoy doing.

Mum and dad, there is nothing wrong with me doing these things. They keep me happy and that’s the most important thing.  The future will always be unclear, but I know that I’ll grow up to be a man that you will be proud of.  I know you’re doing this in my best interest, I’ll do my best to live up to your expectations.  Don’t worry!



Spinner (name changed) is a 14-year-old newly settled refugee.  This took him an hour to write, with only minimal support from a volunteer.  This was retyped exactly as it was handwritten.


Teen blogging competition for National Youth Week 2013

Spinner is a winner in our Teenage Blogging Competition, as part of National Youth Week 2013. He wins $100 thanks to 1st Available, Australia’s number one healthcare booking site.

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Other winners

He started it! by April-Rose, aged 14

Stop fighting! I am hurt, by Eva, aged 15

The computer is not where my brain goes to die, by Robert, aged 15

Sticks and stones may break our bones but words will leave us scarred, by Shari, aged 17

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  1. Love this letter. It’s raw and real. Thank you for sharing it.
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  2. Spinner I think you highlight a really important point for teenagers. There is enormous pressure on young people today and I think it is vital that we adults are aware of that and allow you opportunity to just have fun and enjoy your childhood. Thanks for sharing your story.
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  3. Spinner as a parent I can only imagine how incredible proud your parents must be of you because I am so proud of you reading this and I am just a mum on the other side of the country. I can not imagine how much you and your family have already had to endure but you are already an inspiration and will indeed be everything and more that your parents are dreaming you will be. Congratulations on a fantastic post and your well deserved win in the Teen Blogging Competition. It is so deserved. I wish you and your family the very best in all of your tomorrow’s.
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