Stop fighting! I am hurt

Stop fighting! I am hurt.

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By Eva, aged 15.

Today, I want to talk about a very serious thing that occurs in most family. That’s the affect to children from their parents.

What parents are doing is what their children are doing. If you are happy, then I will be happy. But if you always sad, keep fighting with each other all the day, then I will be sad and I won’t know how to be good to people. That’s because you’re my parents and you affect my behaviour and personality every day, every hour and every moment.

There’s one of my own personal example. My mom and dad love each other, I am sure. But they always fight with others, saying things like “I hate you!”,  “why did I married with you!” or “we have to divorce”.  Each times their words getting mean and meaner.

You know how afraid I feel when you fight? You know how hurt I feel after you curse each other? I feel you are enemies; but we are family!

You know how afraid I feel when you fight? You know how hurt I feel after you curse each other? I feel you are enemies; but we are family! I become sad all the day and live in the fear. I just don’t get it. Why do people saying bad things to hurt other’s heart? I know you don’t want to do that, because it’s not only hurting the person you married, it’s hurting me and your heart as well. I hate yell and cry, but you do it every day. You created me out of love, please don’t bring me up in hate!

The doctor’s children have a very big probability of become a doctor, the butcher’s children have a very big probability of become a butcher, and the mean parents’ children have a very big probability of become rude people.

We have to show the good side of us to our children, we have to stop fighting, because they are learning from us, because they worried about us all the time, because love understands love!

But I am sure this is not only one’s fault, if we want to have a happy family, we work it out together. I believe parents can make things right, because they don’t want their children to be sad. I hope all the parents can hold their hands and watching their children grow up, I hope we can all live in love. I really hope.


Teen blogging competition for National Youth Week 2013

15-year-old Eva is a winner in our Teenage Blogging Competition, as part of National Youth Week 2013. Eva wins $100 thanks to 1st Available, Australia’s number one healthcare booking site.

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Other winners

Parents shouldn’t have unreasonable expectations, by Spinner, aged 14

He started it! by April-Rose, aged 14

The computer is not where my brain goes to die, by Robert, aged 15

Sticks and stones may break our bones but words will leave us scarred, by Shari, aged 17

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  1. Eva is there a counsellor you can see at school? Someone you can talk to? as you’re carrying a very heavy load which you really shouldn’t have to do at your age.
    Please don’t think that you’re going to grow up to hate and be rude because of the environment you’re in, in fact you may surprise yourself and find that you go the other way and become more compassionate and loving because you know first hand just how hurtful and harmful the other option is.
    Hugs to you Eva, I’m sorry that you’re going through this.

  2. Eva you’ve written a really important piece for parents on how how actions and behaviour impacts on our children. Sometimes it is easy to forget the role we play in setting an example to our children. Thank you for sharing this story.
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  3. Eva this is such a touching and profound piece of writing for any parent to read and realise the affect that their actions and their words may be having on their children. I hope your parents have had the opportunity to read these raw and emotional words and that you as a family have had the opportunity to speak about it and how you as a family can work through this time and find yourself in a much more settled and happier place. I wish you all the happiness for the future. Congratulation on not only winning the Teen Blogging Competition but on writing and sharing such a heart felt blog. You are an amazing young woman.
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