Ask an Expert: I have anorexia; how can I stop food consuming my thoughts?

I’m 17 and have anorexia. I’ve had anorexia and EDNOS [eating disorder not otherwise specified] for about a year. I was emailing for advice on how to get though each day without letting food thoughts consume my whole day. Each day my thoughts revolve around food and it’s all I ever think about. Also I.. Read more

Ask an Expert: My kids say I’m very easy going but should I be tougher?

I describe my parenting style as ‘love them to death and hope for the best’. My kids say I’m very easy going and they love me for it but should I be tougher? I don’t want to be one of those parents that says “no” for the sake of it and so I always try.. Read more

Ask an Expert: How do I limit my child’s time online without damaging trust?

How can I effectively limit the time my 12-year-old daughter spends online and monitor usage without seeming like big brother (the 1984 kind) and damaging mother-daughter trust boundaries. I also think schools don’t do enough to educate teens, and pre-teens in particular, about internet and social media use. This is compounded by some school’s BYO.. Read more

Ask an Expert: What can I do about my 13-year-old who doesn’t want to do family things anymore?

If a 13-year-old decides he/she does no longer want to go out with the rest of the family (to visit uncles or go to church etc) what is the smartest course of action without being a dictator? Wanting to avoid hanging out with the family is a pretty normal part of adolescence that is often.. Read more

Ask an Expert – How do I protect our other children from the behaviour of our out-of-control teen?

We have an out-of-control 14-year-old girl – avoiding school, disappearing at night, smoking, lying, with some big anxiety and depression issues too.  We are doing everything we can to try and help get her back on ‘the right track’ – counselling, medication, love. My question is about our three younger children – 12, 8 and.. Read more

Ask an Expert: How do I support my teen who is dealing with depression among her friends

Are we seeing a greater level of mental health issues in student populations? Is social media a contributing factor? Even if your child isn’t suffering herself how do you support her when she is dealing with issues of depression etc amongst her friendship group? I believe that every generation has worried about the one coming.. Read more

Ask an Expert – Does making sexual relationships sound wrong or dirty give teens a bad start to their sexual lives?

Does making sexual relationships sound wrong or dirty give teens a bad start to their sexual lives?  The language we use around relationships and sexuality can have a huge impact, so the simple answer to this question is yes.  Depending on the individual child, using negative language may contribute to a negative attitude towards sex,.. Read more

Ask an Expert: What is the parent’s role when a teenager is in counselling?

When young people see counsellors and psychologists there are times when parents are included in the conversations but often the door is closed and as a parent you have to trust the professional to guide your teen. I have been lucky to find good help for my daughter, I know if I need to ask.. Read more

Ask an Expert: What advice do you have for parents in interacting with their children’s high school?

What advice do you have for parents in interacting with their children’s high school? Technology has opened the doors for schools to have a greater connection with parents than previously possible. It’s no longer adequate or desirable to have two meetings a year. Parents want and need to know how their child is progressing at.. Read more

Ask an Expert: Why do teenagers self-harm and how can we help?

My son started cutting himself this week. He cut his upper arm on purpose. I took him to the doctor as I’ve heard of this happening before to other kids and it doesn’t surprise me that he did it because of his behaviour in the past. But I really would like to understand why they.. Read more