Teenagers – independence vs boundaries

By Jodi Benveniste. Do you remember being a teenager? It’s an intense time! There’s a heady mix of excitement at being more independent and grown up but also so much uncertainty and insecurity because we’re not yet sure of who we are and our place in the world. It’s a very challenging developmental stage. Our.. Read more

Reader question – ‘My 14 yo keeps leaving home’

RM asks: I have a 14-year-old daughter who keeps leaving home. She is in a social network with girls 16/17 years old and moving from family to family. This time she is stating she is being abused by me (mother) and brothers aged 16 and 20. Of course this is all lies to get families.. Read more

Getting teenagers to read in the digital age

Contributed by Jay Ong in collaboration with Bookworld. Teenagers are bombarded by a seemingly endless stream of information and media that is meant to be consumed in the quickest way possible. From tweets to Snapchat messages which only last a short amount of time, kids are being conditioned to rapidly process information where anything longer.. Read more

The importance of belonging

By Greer Dokmanovic “Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.” Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead One of our basic needs.. Read more

Ask an Expert: How do I stop buying my teen alcohol, without losing his trust and respect?

I have a 15-year-old (almost 16) who has a fascination with alcohol. He seems to feel that he cannot have fun on the weekends without it. His friends also regularly drink and some smoke pot. He drinks bourbon (the drink of choice by his father) and refuses to drink any lower strength alcohol. I made the.. Read more

Ask an Expert: We believe our daughter may be in a dangerous relationship

My husband and I have serious concerns about the man our 18-year-old daughter is seeing. She tells us he is 26, but we have been told by others that he is 30, and is using drugs, and treats her badly, may even be hurting her. We hear he has been sending her video messages of.. Read more

Ask an Expert: My daughter was harassed online and now says she is depressed. Do I ban her from all social media?

My daughter has changed. She has become very isolated and withdrawn, skips schooling and doesn’t want to go out in crowds. She used to like going out with her family to shopping malls. Naturally I have run all the medical tests under the sun. She is fine. Her behaviour has become worse over the last.. Read more

Ask an Expert: Are we equipping our children to adequately cope with the world?

With our current ‘bubble wrap’ approach to raising our children, their limited opportunities for exploration, imagination and risk taking in their lives are we equipping them to adequately cope with the world? Kids need to learn resilience. They need to learn how to fail. Society generally sees failure as a negative thing, but through failure.. Read more

Ask an Expert: My 12-year-old hits, kicks, throws things, and slams doors

I have a 12-year-old daughter who is generally happy, healthy and doing well. She is very smart, athletic, good looking and has generally good social skills … sounds perfect however … when she wants something or wants to do something and she is either not allowed or a decision doesn’t go her way, she loses.. Read more

Ask an Expert: My kids say I’m very easy going but should I be tougher?

I describe my parenting style as ‘love them to death and hope for the best’. My kids say I’m very easy going and they love me for it but should I be tougher? I don’t want to be one of those parents that says “no” for the sake of it and so I always try.. Read more